6 Things You Should Stop Expecting From People

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The older I get, the more I've come to realize that I have had a lot of misplaced expectations. I've dealt with a great deal of disappointment because I've expected too much from someone or something. My feelings would be crushed and I would be so angry because things didn't pan out the way I pictured it.

Maybe I have high expectations and I should learn that what I expect at times are probably too far fetched. But to save myself from the anger and beating myself up later, I've learned to to stop expecting these things:

Stop Expecting People To Be On Time
I love my people, but I swear we can never do things on time. I've lost count of how many times I've made plans for a set time only to realize that others weren't running on that same time with me. If you're not ready when I need you to be, well that means it's time for me to carry on.

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Stop Expecting People To Be Sorry
As much as I want to believe that people will be sorry for their actions, I've learned that there are some that just simply won't. I grew up apologizing for my wrongdoings and expecting an apology in return only to receive a simple smile and a thank you for your apology. WTF. I no longer expect people to be sorry or to say it if they don't mean it.

Stop Expecting People To Know What You Want
Wouldn't it be nice if we had the awesome ability to read people's minds? Well, we don't have that power. I can't expect you to provide what I want if I don't tell you. I had to learn to vocalize what I would want so that others are aware and aren't suprised later down the line. 

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Stop Expecting People To Agree With You
We are all born with our own opinions and viewpoints. Not everyone is going to agree with what you have to say. I spent time thinking that those closest to me would agree with my viewpoints because...we're friends. But now that I'm older I actually appreciate the fact that they have differing opinions. I can't be mad for that.

Stop Expecting People To Do The Right Thing
Everyones upbringing is very different. Their morals and judgments will not always reflect what you may believe to be right. Therefore, you can't expect for others to do the right thing based upon what you may classify is right in your mind. 

Stop Expecting People To Treat You How You Treat Them
I've learned this the hard way, but I have learned that just because I call you every week to check in doesn't mean you're going to do the same in return. I remember feeling "big mad" when I realized that some friends weren't doing this for me. I had to learn to meet people where they meet me.



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  1. This is so true, especially the "stop expecting people to know what you want". These are some lessons we constantly have to re-learn :)

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    1. Absolutely! Still learning along the way

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  2. I resonate with your post!! Expectations are attachments to people, places and things. When we have the courage to release all that no longer serves us, we harness our personal power, call back pieces of ourselves and become present - sober - to the magic of true freedom. I celebrate you. ❤️

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    1. Thanks so much! Definitely a learning experience

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  3. Honestly, the only person we should ever rely on is ourselves and I couldn't agree more with "Stop expecting people to know what you want" sometimes you just have to go for what you want anyway, not everyone sees your vision in the beginning. Lovely post, thank you for sharing :)

    -Kiarna Jayne xo
    http://kiarnajayne.com/

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    1. You are so right! Still learning as I go

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  4. That's a big-girl-pants-wearin' post right there! Good for you. The only one I'd challenge (because, you know, #4 đŸ˜œ) is to stop expecting people to do the right thing. Yes, people's morals and judgments differ, but there are some things I believe are flat-out wrong and would call someone out for: doing drugs around my family, stealing from my house or anywhere, lying to me, cheating on their spouse... I'm not havin' it. If they're doing this stuff, they're not my friend until they stop. I think we're better people when our friends expect better from us.

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    1. That is a great point there!! I absolutely agree. There definitely has to be a drawing line

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  5. Love this because it is so sad, but so true! This is something I have had to learn over the years as well. The one I still have to remind myself of over and over is to 'Stop Expecting People To Do The Right Thing'.

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    1. Yes! You would hope that some people would only to realize that they don't. Hurts to learn, but at least you'll know going forward.

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  6. It's sad but true. We hope that others will treat us the way we treat them...but expectations most often lead to heart break. My favorite quote is, "Expect nothing and appreciate everything."

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    1. Amazing quote. I will have to start using that

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  7. Yes, these are some great lessons that takes longer for some of us to learn sometimes. We live in a broken world full of imperfection so disappointment is around every corner. The only thing I can truly rely on is God's promises and His perfect love. Otherwise, I would be without hope. There is truth to this and life is easier on a daily basis when we stop expecting people to do what we would do (or what we hope they would do).

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    1. Great point. It truly can be a sad reality. But you are totally right about relying on God. I feel the same.

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  8. Your hanging out with the wrong people. People I know and are with are never so inconsiderate.

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    1. I think you're right about that lol good point

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  9. Love it. It is so true. We are always expecting :)

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