I Went a Day Without Talking and This Is What I Learned

Verbal communication is by far my most expressed way of communicating. I have always been very vocal. If it's something I want, need, a question or thought, I had no issues with speaking up. However, I had a day where I couldn't speak and the lesson I learned from it was monumental.

I caught a really nasty sore throat that inhibited me from drinking, eating, and yes...talking. I couldn't even whisper. I was in so much pain that it didn't make sense to do the very thing that was making it worse. Having a one year old and my husband definitely made this challenging, but if I was going to feel any better it was a necessary step to take.

Obviously if I couldn't verbally say what I needed, I had to find other ways to communicate what was on my mind. But that's where the lesson comes in to play.

I woke up that morning and whispered to my husband that there was no way I could go to work that day. He asked what I needed and I couldn't respond. I placed my hand over my throat to sign that I'm not going to say another word. Not going to lie. It was a challenge. My husband would ask me a question and I'd be pointing and jumping up and down trying to emphasize what I really wanted to say. If others were to see me they would think we were playing a game of charades.

My husband would stand in front me guessing each gesture. "You want water? No. You're hungry?" I found myself frustrated by not being to able articulate what was so easy to just come out and say. I had moments where I'd endure the pain and just say it. Then, I would be upset that I made my throat worse. Eventually I got lazy with trying to find a way to say what I wanted and I just stopped trying.

So what did I gain from going a full day without speaking?

I had to really think about what I wanted to say and how I wanted to say it. I had to ask myself is this even important for you to take the time to master a way of communicating this. Is this even something that needs to be said?

Not speaking gave me the entire day to just observe. To do nothing. I then realized that I talk a lot. I can laugh at this now, but in that very moment I learned that I'm that chick. There were so many things I wanted to say. So many things I wanted to interrupt. I had an opinion on just about everything. There were things I felt were so urgent that I wanted to say right then and there. But my sore throat stopped me from all of that.

I learned to take a moment and think about what I wanted to say. I learned to take a moment and see how things will pan out without my assistance. I learned to take a moment and step down. I learned that some things aren't as important as it may initially seem.

I learned to take a step back and trust in my husband more. I learned to just adore my husband in that moment without feeling this urge to interject. Seriously. Each time I thought of something I wanted to say I just wanted to tell myself to shush.

Going a full day without speaking was definitely eye opening and forced me to take a moment to slow down and take a look into myself. I am more appreciative and understanding of the power of the tongue and going forward will do my best to work on it.


  1. Silence is so powerful. In my high school we hosted an annual day of silence for LGBT youth and I remember it was a powerful formative experience for me.

  2. This is a lesson that I am currently trying to learn and hope to do so soon. Thanks for the help and encouragement that it can be done! Great article can't wait to see more

  3. I know the feeling. I also once had a sore throat infection that made me lose my voice. I know how frustrating that can be but at least I was alone but couldn't answer phone calls though, which was equally frustrating. I can only imagine how hard it must have been for you with a hubby and a baby... Thanks for sharing this great post!

  4. Love that you did this! We need to learn to speak with purpose... I remember going on a retreat where we could not speak for two days ... we were just focused on meditating and connecting with God. It was a very emotional experience. I realized the importance of speaking with purpose on only saying things that are positive, that help people that inspire change. I love what you said here "Not speaking gave me the entire day to just observe. To do nothing." So true.

    -Angela Maria

  5. This is such a beautiful practice. Thanks so much for sharing it! Doing something that we can do, but not necessarily awls do (like practicing silence) helps us to experience a new pattern. I often attend silent retreats for this reason. When we cease talking for a little bit, we hear so much more. Blessings and gratitude. <3 Evelyn, www.PathofPresence.com